Her by Chloe · Writing

The science behind
the feeling.

Articles on women's desire, sexual trauma recovery, nervous system healing, and why your body's response to smut is more clinical than you think. Written by Chloé Ellert, MSc Sexology and certified clinical aromatherapist.

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April 18, 2026 Nervous System · Trauma
This is why women will always choose the bear
The CNN investigation into organized networks of men sharing techniques for assaulting their partners confirmed what every woman's nervous system already knew. This piece is about the bear debate, the fictional man, and what it all tells us clinically about why women's desire goes quiet — and where it actually goes when it does.
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"Your desire didn't disappear. It went somewhere the world couldn't reach it, somewhere it could wait, somewhere it has been protecting itself on your behalf this whole time."
March 28, 2026 Neuroscience · Desire
The neuroscience of desire
How smut, scent, and the nervous system work together to rebuild safety and desire after trauma. The Play-Doh analogy, neuroplasticity, and why healing has to be felt before the brain follows.
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November 1, 2025 Intimate Health · Aromatherapy
The epidemic silencing women's intimate health
More than 70% of women will experience at least one yeast infection in their lifetime. Nearly half will deal with recurrence within a year. The clinical aromatherapy protocols Chloé presented at the Beyond Aromatics 2025 conference — and why women deserve better than being told to relax.
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May 8, 2026 Trauma · Nervous System
Nobody told me my body was keeping score. I had to find out a decade later.
Ten years. A whole decade where my body knew something I wasn't ready to hold yet — and when it finally surfaced, everything that had never made sense suddenly made complete sense. On grief, relief, and the body's faithful record-keeping.
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More from Chloé

The woman who reads smut at midnight is not escaping her life. She is practicing for it.

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